tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post1984700468332058231..comments2023-09-11T10:44:20.765-04:00Comments on Notes from the Ninth Circle - Jessie's Infertility Journal: Hope and DespairKecharahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-79426610623446299642013-08-27T17:18:31.479-04:002013-08-27T17:18:31.479-04:00Kechara, thank you so much for this post. I recent...Kechara, thank you so much for this post. I recently decided to stop treatment for my infertility and have been having a lot of conversations about hope lately. People (even my husband) are saying that they'll continue to hope that one day we'll get pregnant, but I can't move on with my life like that. <br /><br />Hope can be a beautiful thing, but with infertility it turned into the single most caustic, crippling emotion in my life. Letting go was life changing.<br /><br />Don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty for deciding not to carry a torch that was burning your arm off. knoellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02885644187438015528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-75573166481518044672013-07-05T13:17:31.275-04:002013-07-05T13:17:31.275-04:00I get where you're coming from. What you'r...I get where you're coming from. What you're describing is rational that I've also used to steal myself when doing something difficult that has a chance of failure. After all, it seems so naive to be so hopeful when the pain can be so great.<br /><br />But what I'm learning is that this type of thinking can backfire. That there is a mind/body connection where one's approach can tip the balance towards certain outcomes. With this last cycle, my therapist really encouraged me not to steal myself, viewing it as poisonous to our embryos. I'm not saying that by being so positive equalled this cycle working, but I do know that having my mood be a better place allowed me to tolerate the whole process a lot better.<br /><br />I too hold out hope for you for motherhood. I know that in the meantime you have a lot on your plate, but remember there are different forms of hope. Wishing you love and peace.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com