tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post804986225679373331..comments2023-09-11T10:44:20.765-04:00Comments on Notes from the Ninth Circle - Jessie's Infertility Journal: Decisions, DecisionsKecharahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-28823456676318344752012-03-25T22:31:57.529-04:002012-03-25T22:31:57.529-04:00Here from ICLW. I'm so sorry you have to make...Here from ICLW. I'm so sorry you have to make such a tough decision. IF is hard enough even when it doesn't seem to interrupt every aspect of our lives. I hope whatever decision you come to brings you peace. And that lab totally sucks.The Spicy Chickadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05829717249149069341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-29489578636017967432012-03-25T16:47:24.655-04:002012-03-25T16:47:24.655-04:00I'm sorry your cycle was canceled, and that yo...I'm sorry your cycle was canceled, and that you have some really big, not so ideal decisions to make about when to do the next one. It sounds like you have a really good understanding of where you are, though, so whatever you decide will be the right thing to do.<br /><br />Wishing you lots of luck in the next few months!sass @ (In)fertility Unexplainedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322070279032931788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-50671003991133065352012-03-24T16:29:50.563-04:002012-03-24T16:29:50.563-04:00aww yes, one of the "benefits" of the IF...aww yes, one of the "benefits" of the IF world...you do get to pick when to get preg...well, when to go through treatment hell at least, though the getting part is usually a few years after the originally picked date. during IF hell, i think it's important to not cancel all social events and hold off on life completely when possible--you have to maintain a balance between throwing everything aside for treatment and said treatment whenever possible.~ebc~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13783967197652377712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-42456471818869693962012-03-24T16:25:19.525-04:002012-03-24T16:25:19.525-04:00if you can wait to see if the tests come back in e...if you can wait to see if the tests come back in enough time, than i think i'd try that route (b/c if they don't...like you said, the decision is made for you). that said, i've found that in times that i rush, or try to rush things, it usually turns out that i should have waited and been a bit more patient (not my strong point at all!). waiting sounds great so you won't miss somethings, but i know the insurance issue isn't a small thing either. thus, back to my first sentence.~ebc~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13783967197652377712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-7848110439923009852012-03-23T23:01:15.418-04:002012-03-23T23:01:15.418-04:00Here from ICLW as well. So sorry you are having to...Here from ICLW as well. So sorry you are having to go through all this. I find with these kind of decisions, my heart is usually yelling which option to pick...I just have to go through all my thoughts to figure out why. Most of the time my heart yells "SOONER THAN LATER" though. lol. I'm not very patient...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-27822707677832746152012-03-23T22:19:59.425-04:002012-03-23T22:19:59.425-04:00I meant hi, not ho. :-)I meant hi, not ho. :-)Alb Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05511111956909661681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-53980397108248048422012-03-23T22:19:36.425-04:002012-03-23T22:19:36.425-04:00Ho from ICLW! I think I'm on the waiting side...Ho from ICLW! I think I'm on the waiting side of things. Seems less stressful that way. Good luck either way!Alb Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05511111956909661681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-40005089994132929652012-03-23T16:39:44.399-04:002012-03-23T16:39:44.399-04:00Anonymous, this IS her "real world." It&...Anonymous, this IS her "real world." It's not just "putting it off for social events and other wants" - it's also about whether or not the probe will be ready in a month. I imagine it would be worse to start a cycle and then have to stop (AGAIN) because something wasn't ready. Not only would it be emotionally draining, but it wouldn't be terribly good health-wise either, using all those hormones to gear up for something and then having to stop suddenly.<br /><br />I'll also second the comment that plenty of people are able to plan their pregnancies. I've certainly heard, "I don't want to be pregnant in the summer, so we're not trying right now."<br /><br />And why "Anonymous"? Perhaps you like to hide behind a keyboard or you know Jessie personally and don't have the nerve to talk to her about it offline? Either way, if reading about her real world struggles annoys you to the point that you feel the need to write a vicious comment, save yourself the aggravation and stop reading.JWHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020129936755995928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-54331921234578767352012-03-23T14:11:31.633-04:002012-03-23T14:11:31.633-04:00Wow...those are really tough decisions! But based...Wow...those are really tough decisions! But based purely on what you wrote it sounds like it's money versus life events. If you can afford the money, I'd said wait until month 3. If you can't, then month 1. I hope it all just works out the first time for you!! Good luck.Mrs Green Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458001574184407164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-20027369588677475452012-03-23T12:41:19.618-04:002012-03-23T12:41:19.618-04:00Hi from ICLW!
First I want to say good luck on t...Hi from ICLW! <br /><br />First I want to say good luck on the decision. Maybe the kits and getting them back time wise will make it easier. <br /><br />Second to anonymous... All of my fertile friends pretty much planned their pregnancy so I don't know what your issue is. Second, when going thru treatments the best you can do for yourself is timing it when your in the right place to do so! Ugh people amaze me.Emmshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08761362136697332510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-36102010411782861102012-03-23T11:56:38.745-04:002012-03-23T11:56:38.745-04:00I am so, so sorry! I hope that your path becomes c...I am so, so sorry! I hope that your path becomes clear and that you settle on a decision that gives you peace.<br /><br />Here from ICLW.dspencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01822835834909155065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-18562546804087801582012-03-23T11:39:09.192-04:002012-03-23T11:39:09.192-04:00Thanks, Ducky! What is the reason for the PGD in ...Thanks, Ducky! What is the reason for the PGD in your case? When are you expecting the next cycle to start?Kecharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-79662401133099991342012-03-23T10:32:18.625-04:002012-03-23T10:32:18.625-04:00Wow I can't believe a person who doesn't e...Wow I can't believe a person who doesn't even have the guts to put a name to her post is being such an idiot. Well actually, I can, because that's what gutless people do.<br /><br />If not for the money and you don't mind waiting, 3 months sounds better, but money and waiting can sometimes rule all!<br /><br />I'm doing PGD for the first time next cycle and I don't really know how it works! I'm nervous there's timing issues with it from what you said that is going to drag things out...and I have a vacation in June already scheduled...<br /><br />ICLW #43Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09335353073249821723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-59162637862560692702012-03-23T10:03:53.419-04:002012-03-23T10:03:53.419-04:00First of all, this is the real world, and second o...First of all, this is the real world, and second of all, plenty of fertiles do get to pick and choose when they're going to be pregnant, or at least when they're not going to be pregnant. I've seen plenty of, "I'm not going to try this month because I don't want to be huge/giving birth right when I have X/Y/Z."<br /><br />Also, I'm trying to find a balance between being infertile and still being an actual person. I've been so drowned in infertility that I neglected the rest of who I am, and I was miserable. I've also drowned myself in the other things that fulfill me, to smother the pain when I wasn't able to try for insurance reasons, and I got yelled at for that and was miserable.Kecharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-61254557535066789132012-03-23T09:16:09.436-04:002012-03-23T09:16:09.436-04:00In the real world you don't get to pick and ch...In the real world you don't get to pick and choose when you get pregnant and you quickly figure out your priorities and make adjustments. If you truly want a child so badly, then why are you even thinking of putting it off for social events and other wants.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-82220099349949529802012-03-22T22:51:13.845-04:002012-03-22T22:51:13.845-04:00If it was me, I would try for a one month cycle, p...If it was me, I would try for a one month cycle, particularly with the insurance timing. C and I were talking last night about how infertility is a lot like becoming a parent early - you have to make sacrifices and adjustments to your life before your baby-to-be is even conceived. Sorry things aren't going smoothly for you.JWHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020129936755995928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-44510586944281530142012-03-22T16:47:29.928-04:002012-03-22T16:47:29.928-04:00I'm sorry things have been so rough!I'm sorry things have been so rough!Mark and Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568782420855476791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-80696955443796400382012-03-22T13:35:10.316-04:002012-03-22T13:35:10.316-04:00(((HUGS))) I am sorry that you were canceled befor...(((HUGS))) I am sorry that you were canceled before the cycle ever began. I can only imagine how tough that is. I am curious about your event that you would need to buy plane tickets for, is it by chance a Southwest market? If so you could purchase the tickets now and if for some reason you can not go you could you could cancel the tickets without any change fees. Best of both worlds if you ask me. <br />I guess it boils down to if I were in your shoes I would cycle as soon as possible, because it is something that I want more than anything in the world. You are the only person who can make that call. Good Luck!!!sunflowers4AChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530931973706359516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16166767.post-21997145150900758042012-03-22T07:53:07.211-04:002012-03-22T07:53:07.211-04:00I think you should trust your gut instinct. Text m...I think you should trust your gut instinct. Text me and we can discuss.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115480044104642700noreply@blogger.com