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On Thursday night, I celebrated Mother's Day for the first time as a stepmother, though it's the third May since I became a stepmother. Papa Bear gave the kids the option of whether they wanted to buy me something while they were buying their mom gifts, and they each chose to get a gift for me, along with a card that made me tear up.
On Sunday, I spent most of the day helping other people's kids along with my toddler, working at a quizbowl tournament. Papa Bear got my friends in on helping distract me while he had the baby "sign" the card in crayon, and he picked out a present that I needed but wouldn't have thought of buying for myself. I don't care much about brands of purses or anything like that, but I love POCKETS in my purses because I have trouble staying organized, and he got me one with lots of pockets.
What did the most to make me cry, though, was the text my Dad sent, "Happy Mother's Day x4." My son, both stepkids, and my lost Otter.
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Monday, May 09, 2016
Monday, April 25, 2016
#MicroblogMondays: What's in a Name?
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My son's first word, at almost 6 months old, was "Mama." He didn't say it again for a while, and then it was all "Dada, dada, dada" for another while before "Mama" came back into play, but anytime he did refer to me as anything, it was "Mama" and then "Mommy." Over the past month or two, though, he's started calling me "Jessie." I try to teach him to say and sign "Mommy," and sometimes it works, but other times I spend what feels like forever repeating "Mommy" while he responds with "Jessie." As a stepparent, I would never ask the older kids to refer to me by a name they don't feel comfortable with, and I would never try to supplant their mother. At the same time, this side effect of that really hurts. I worked so hard and went through so much to be able to actually be Mommy to someone, and even while I know how and why it's happening, it still feels like that is being diluted.
(I am really glad that my husband understands how I feel and why and does what he can to reinforce "Mommy" with my son)
My son's first word, at almost 6 months old, was "Mama." He didn't say it again for a while, and then it was all "Dada, dada, dada" for another while before "Mama" came back into play, but anytime he did refer to me as anything, it was "Mama" and then "Mommy." Over the past month or two, though, he's started calling me "Jessie." I try to teach him to say and sign "Mommy," and sometimes it works, but other times I spend what feels like forever repeating "Mommy" while he responds with "Jessie." As a stepparent, I would never ask the older kids to refer to me by a name they don't feel comfortable with, and I would never try to supplant their mother. At the same time, this side effect of that really hurts. I worked so hard and went through so much to be able to actually be Mommy to someone, and even while I know how and why it's happening, it still feels like that is being diluted.
(I am really glad that my husband understands how I feel and why and does what he can to reinforce "Mommy" with my son)
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