Monday, October 03, 2016

#Microblog Mondays: Fear and Trembling

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I keep swinging back and forth between being glad we have a chance to try and being certain that nothing good is going to happen because my only remaining ovary is too broken.  I think I've been reading too much on the internet/FB (I know, irony, right?) and seeing people told that Clomid won't help them and maybe they should try egg donation.  Papa Bear feels like that would defeat the purpose of having a baby that was the two of us.  I want to be pregnant and carry a baby, I think even if it weren't my eggs, but I can't justify that much of an expense for a possibility when we have three kids to provide for both now and in the future.  But I still want a second child that is MINE, that calls ME Mommy and Papa Bear Daddy.


  1. It's a tough spot to be in. What helps me with the uncertainty (sometimes) is to put limits on it: for example try Clomid for X cycles, then talk again about egg donation. Not to promise to do it or even to decide on anything, but revisit the idea. And it's ok to say no to things. Just because a treatment can be done doesn't mean it's right for you and your values and priorities.

  2. I second Torthuil. It is so unfair that you have to have these kinds of discussions, but I like the idea of making a list or a time limit and a trajectory for when you're ready to gather more information on any next steps. I also feel like going from CLomid to donor egg is a huge leap when there are egg quality protocols that are far less expensive than donor egg, unless you've been told donor egg is your best bet. When we did donor egg and it didn't work, we got second opinions and NO ONE thought donor egg had been necessary.... so the more information the better when you're making these insane decisions about something that should come SO MUCH EASIER than it does for some reason.

  3. Clomid worked first time for two friends of mine who thought they were hopeless cases (ages 39 and 41, endo & low ovarian reserve), so I see it as a bit of a 'miracle' drug (just not for me!). So could work.

    1. Thank you, that really helps my hope to hear that!