Monday, February 22, 2016

#MicroblogMondays: Tear Soup

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One of my clients handed this book to me to borrow a couple of weeks ago.  A family friend had suggested it to her after she recently lost her husband.  She said I would cry when reading it, and she was right, but it was the good kind of cry, the "yes, that's what it's like" kind of cry.  It's written to fit for children and adults both, and it does a really good job of breaking down how grief changes and how it gets shared with others.

The main author has written several other short books and pamphlets, mainly about losing a child.  She has a book for the older sibling of a lost baby and one for the rainbow baby.  She has a pamphlet for parents after a miscarriage.  I don't know if that would help or not at the stage that I'm at right now, but I've been thinking about getting it.

Right now, I feel so alone, like we're the only ones who can't have a rainbow baby.  I know that's not true, I know there are so many people out there who haven't been able to have theirs.  But it feels like it's just us.  I still get a lot of comfort from having my son, and I know that's comfort and joy that I wouldn't have if Otter had come before him.  But it's still lonely, and I'm still making my tear soup.


  1. Thinking of you.

  2. Sending a hug. And handing you virtual tissues while you read the book.

  3. Anonymous5:13 AM

    Thanks for sharing about the book. Sending love.

  4. I remember seeing a poster in a waiting room in a part of the hospital where I've spent a lot (too much) of time. It said, "Miscarriage is very common, but it is also very lonely." I remember thinking how true it was. I think that applies to infertility overall. You're not alone - I'm thinking of you too.