I was numb until about lunch today (which, based on my client schedule, came at 2). I don't know whether it was wine from last night or fatigue or being emotionally drained, but I felt like I was moving through a numb haze as I took the baby to daycare, walked the dog, snuggled with the dog for a nap before my first session, went through my first 4 sessions.
The numbness wore off as I was heading to lunch. Interestingly, it was triggered as much by my mom as by the due date. (For those that I don't know IRL, I lost my mom to cancer in September 2014.) Because of the due date, it really hurt that I couldn't call her and talk to her. From that point on, the day was back and forth between struggling to hold back tears and failing to hold them back. I'm just glad I managed to be distracted enough from my feelings to keep control during sessions.
It was nice being off work early enough to pick the baby up from daycare before it closed, especially since he was in a good mood. As I was getting home, though, I found out that my husband needed to run out for spaghetti sauce. I was already feeling like I wanted to stay at work until the kids were all in bed because I was afraid of breaking down in front of them and scaring them, and then I had to manage 2 of them alone (my husband took my car, with the baby in it). I had to wipe away tears before I walked in, both from all the emotion and from fear of not holding it together well enough. The fact that one was doing homework and the other had other things she could focus on gave me the ability to just cook and load the dishwasher. My husband got home quickly, at least, which took focus off of me. I was able to do a decent amount of isolating without it affecting the kids by being the one to put the baby to bed, and I got the side benefit of baby snuggles.
After we got the older kids to bed, I semi-unintentionally made a cushion fort in the corner of the sectional while my husband brought me mint moose tracks ice cream with whipped cream and crumbled Thin Mints on top. That got me able to do the notes I had to do tonight for work. OK, that and more wine. What the hell. I'm not pregnant, and for all I know I never will be again. And that hurts.
But I do have a toddler that I love very much and who is finally getting better with sleep. This would hurt a lot more if I also had added to the pain the question of whether I would ever become a real parent. And I have a husband who loves me dearly and brings me ice cream. And I have a dog that loves to snuggle. And I know that on other nights, I will not feel this bad. But right now, I do. And I know that's ok now that the kids are in bed. I didn't want to burden the kids with seeing how awful I felt. But now I can show it and be honest about who I am and how I feel because anyone who would be bothered by it can choose not to read.