Friday, November 25, 2011

Do You Have Any News?

I got asked that today by my great-aunt, the first time I've ever been asked that blatantly.  I don't see or talk to that side of the family that often, since they live out in Ohio...the last time I saw my great-aunt was the month before DH and I started TTC.  Apparently right about that same time, two of my cousins conceived with their new wives.  The one that is just a couple of months younger than me is expecting his second baby in a few months, too, so that's someone else who has lapped me.  I did everything sooner than Jared.  I was born 3 months sooner.  I graduated high school and college a year earlier, since his birthday was enough later to put him in a different school year.  I got married sooner.  But not only did he have a kid before me, he had kidS before me.  Before I could even get within sniffing distance of having one kid, he has two.  And I get asked if I have any news in the same breath that I get told about how wonderfully fertile the rest of my family is.

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  1. Ugh, how frustrating to be lapped. I know the feeling. Family get-togethers can bring up those questions, hope you had a good answer. Oh, and happy belated birthday.

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  2. I tried to play it off by telling her about DH's new job, and I got a response of, "that's not what I meant, Jared's wife is pregnant with their second child." So I replied with, "we're hoping to try IVF next year."

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  3. that must be so hard.

    happy belated birthday!!

    ICLW
    #68

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  4. Ooooooh that makes me literally shake with anger and frustration, especially her 2nd comment. It's not a race, but if it were, we'd have lost long ago. I GET THAT. I hope when you told her you were trying IVF she either backpedaled and apologized for being thoughtless, or at least stopped talking. ((hugs))

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  5. Yeah, she did, and I found out later, when Mom and I called back to talk to other family members that had arrived, that she had told my mom's cousins so that they didn't ask the same thing.

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