On Friday night, I was at a book signing. Two rows behind me were a 5-month-old and a 3-month-old. As the 3-month-old began to cry, I was hit with an overwhelming desire to hold it. Immediately after came the knowledge that it would hurt like hell to hold it, knowing that I may never have one of my own. Ever since then, my left arm keeps literally aching, wanting to be bent around the weight of a baby. I can especially feel the ache in my elbow and my upper arm, which would be bearing most of the weight.
We had been hoping that the insurance would be better at DH's new company. We got good news and bad news yesterday. The good news is that they have an FSA, so we can pay for testing and treatments pre-tax up to the limit of the FSA. The bad news is, the PPO that the company works with has no infertility coverage. The HR manager was wonderful and noted that the HMO the company can also work with might have coverage and that she would check. Still, what the hell is up with this? So many of the people on my message board have coverage for diagnostic procedures. Is that really so rare? Are they all just really lucky? Or is it that DH and I are blocked for some reason? That maybe God doesn't want us to succeed?
All I can say is, thank goodness for Zoloft.
Hey Jessie, sorry I am not from the US so I don't fully know your healthcare system except the fact that it can be frickin' unfair! I hope you are able to get some of the coverage you need. I'm really sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else. Thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteThanks, hon, I appreciate it! I'm really glad that your journey is going better than mine at this point!
ReplyDeleteOur insurance didn't cover anything deemed related to infertility. We had to fight to get the surgery to remove my uterine polyp covered. Since it was the fertility doctor that found it, the insurance company didn't initially cover it, even though the doctor had included notes as to why it needed to be done (and they weren't simply fertility reasons). Tests, procedures, treatments, etc. were all out of pocket for us. It sucked reading about people who had coverage for up to three rounds of IVF.
ReplyDeleteJules, I know how that goes. At this point, we're at something like $1200-1300 out of pocket before darkening the door of a fertility clinic. $635 of blood tests for STDs, just to rule out me having one that would cause a problem, was not covered because it was coded as infertility and not health screening.
ReplyDeleteDH got a new job? If so, pass along my congratulations!
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